SELF-CHECK MEETING GUIDELINES
Given the real challenges associated with a diverse meeting, it is most important that we all do our best to conduct ourselves in a respectful manner.

1) TONE AND BODY LANGUAGE:
Be aware of how your attitude influences others as well as the effectiveness of the meeting. Make thoughtful comments that maintain a positive and constructive vibe.

2) STAY ON TOPIC/MAKE CONCISE STATEMENTS:
Respect the goals of the meeting by making succinct comments that pertain directly to objectives addressed in the agenda. Evaluate your comments as to whether they assist or divert the direction of the meeting.

3) CHECK YOUR PRIVILEGE:
We all come with relative societal privileges and oppressions based, in part, on our experiences with race, gender, and class. Be aware of how this affects what you say and what you do.

4) STEP BACK, STEP UP:
Notice how much you raise your hand and/or speak. Be aware of others who have not spoken and the environment in which they would feel comfortable to do so. If you aren't speaking but have something to add, assert yourself with the understanding that your comment will be heard and respected. Don't simply wait for your turn to talk, LISTEN.

5) NO OFFENSE/DEFENSE:
Meetings are not about winners and losers nor personal attacks. Offensive and defensive behavior and accusations detract from the objectives of the meeting. Be sensible about the intentions of others by giving them the benefit of the doubt.

6) RESPECT THE ROLE OF THE FACILITATOR:
Help the facilitator make the meeting effective. This does not mean pointing out minor mistakes, but rather allowing the facilitator to exercise organizational control to better the outcome of the meeting. It is not a personal attack when the facilitator fails to put you on the stack in the correct order.

7) WE'RE IN THIS TOGETHER:
These meetings would not happen if the people in them weren't committed to similar ideas and held similar values. Keep in mind that this is a joint effort that requires a healthy, positive, give and take atmosphere. Our meetings must be productive in order to leave with specific plans and that great feeling of achievement and solidarity!


Compiled from the “Anti-Racism Principles and Practices” by the Los Angeles Direct Action Network, Overcoming Masculine Oppression, the FEMMAFESTO and the RNC Clearinghouse